There is another “so that” for us to give attention to. Remember that “so that” means “here’s why,” and this one has to do with the older women’s lessons to the younger women.
Inductive always sees “so that”s!
Our next “so that” occurs in verse 5 in Chapter Two. It says that the older woman is to teach the younger woman to love her husband and her children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, be subject to their own husbands SO THAT the word of God may not be dishonored. Now that is amazing, when you slow down, study, and realize what that verse says! It says that what a young woman does in her house, while she’s alone, has an impact on whether or not the Word of God is dishonored!
What you do while you’re alone matters
Younger women love their husbands and kids at home. They are sensible, pure and workers – at home! They are kind and submissive to their husbands – at home! All of the things the young woman is to do, is done in the privacy of her own home; no one is watching. But yet the Word says that what she does when no one is watching keeps the word of God from being dishonored. “How can that happen?” you ask, and I tell you emphatically, “I don’t know!” but it does happen – the word of God says it does!
Let’s look at another scripture that reinforces the concept that what we do in private matters – 1 Peter 3: 1
You wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior.
We see here that – without a word and by her conduct, the wife is able to win her disobedient husband to the Word. We need to notice, too, that this verse is for all wives, not just the wives married to unsaved husbands. None of us has a husband who is completely obedient to the Word, so all of us are to act this way – chastely and respectfully.
Then God goes on to talk about women’s adornment: Your adornment must not be merely external – braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it (adornment) by the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God.
Notice that her adornment is to be the “hidden person of the heart” which is precious in the “sight of God.” We learn from this that what’s hidden on the inside of us is what God looks at! Yes, He has the hairs on our heads numbered, but is not concerned with how they look – He’s concerned with how our insides look – and that is what is precious and imperishable to Him!
We need to learn from this, ladies. There are a couple of thoughts that come to mind: It is the job of the older women to teach the younger women. It seems that today the older women have left the younger women to fend for themselves, or to find their help at Barnes and Noble. There are books on marriage, parenting, organization, exercise, self-improvement and household management, but books are not anointed of God to teach the younger women how to act! The older women are anointed of God to teach!
Another thought is the emphasis on the importance of what I do in my house to love my husband and kids and to be a kind pure, sensible worker at home. What I do here is important. In ways that I can’t understand, God’s reputation in the world is affected by how I conduct myself when I’m all alone. I can’t explain it, but I believe it, and knowing it will govern my conduct in my home.
Janine Bear is a wife, a mother of four teen-agers, and a Pastor in Rogers, MN. Her passion is teaching people to study the Word, and does that whenever she gets a chance. She’s available for conferences, retreats, seminars and Bible studies/